Highly Sensitive Person and Exhausted? You Don’t Need More Safety. You Need This Instead.

If you’re a highly sensitive person who’s exhausted, wired-tired and quietly wondering if you’re just too much for the life you actually want: this one’s for you.

(Maybe you call it empath overwhelm, empath burnout, or just being highly sensitive. Same fried nervous system, different name.)

Most people in my spaces are artists, creatives and entrepreneurs who are multi-passionate, multi-faceted and who have a lot to share with the world. Not all of you consider yourselves highly sensitive. If you’re my strong, enduring, succeed at the material world Ph.D no problem Capricorn crowd. I fucking love you, and this post is for my sensitives today.

Why A Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) Feels So Exhausted

This is what HSP burnout actually looks like: a nervous system that’s been running in overdrive for way too long.

As a highly sensitive person, it can feel like the world is one big trauma — everything is going so fast, changing so fast and there is so much going on all the time.

It can be a lot just to get through the day.

Theoretically you want to grow your business and get paid more for your work…

Theoretically you want to feel more seen and enjoy the gaze…

Theoretically you want to spend more time with your partner (and enjoy it)…

Theoretically you want to feel more pleasure in your body, have more sex, self-pleasure more…

Yes, of course you desire those things, read about them, dream about them. But there just doesn’t seem to be more bandwidth.

When you’re so fried from the world, the news, the general volume of What’s Going On, the kids’ activities and all the thing you have to do… the thought of adding one more thing that would take away a moment of quiet alone time feels daunting, repulsive, even though… theoretically you desire them.

You want to thrive without overwhelm. You want to succeed without sacrificing intimacy. You want abundance without giving up other areas of your life like your marriage, your kids, spending time with nature.

But it just feels like there’s not enough hours in the day or you just don’t have what it takes or you’re just too sensitive.

That has to be it, right?

You’re Not Lacking Anything (So What’s Actually Missing?)

You’re not lacking devotion. Devotion feeds you.

You’re not lacking boundaries. You’ve gotten so much better at those.

You’re not lacking desire. God knows you’ve got plenty of that to go around.

You’re not lacking knowledge. You’re the most attuned person in the room.

You’re not lacking clarity. You know what you’re here to do and you feel the burn.

You’re not lacking willpower, discipline or strength. You know how to work hard and you can hold a lot.

So what is it then?

If you’re not lacking any of these things, where’s the pleasurable flowering and thriving, the fruit?!

Why does it all still feel like too much to hit the pavement with orgasms and cash-in-hand?

Oh well, maybe I’m just too sensitive and should have been born as a faerie during a time when Jane Austen ruled the land with Robin Hood as my boyfriend.

I guess I’m just not good enough. I guess I was born at the wrong time when women like me were doomed to be overlooked, outcast and made fun of.

If only the world were different.

If you’re reading this you are probably in a group of the most privileged and objectively safe people in the entire world. So why don’t you feel “safe” enough yet to thrive, shine and be seen as your sexy sensi self?

Because you’re chasing the wrong carrot.

You Don’t Need More Safety. You Need Power.

You don’t need more safety — small, predictable zones of familiarity and assurance.

And you’re not too sensitive.

What you need… is Power — a wider, wilder net of connectivity that strengthens your system to hold more aliveness, uncertainty, strength and self-trust.

Not devotional power. Not prayer power.

Not mystical powers. Not the power of love.

We all know you feel super powerful when you’re doing spiritual things and being empathetic. You have these on lock.

I’m talking about embodied, erotic POWER.

The power that can actually handle going after what you want, getting what you want and enjoying it.

The power that isn’t out there but in here.

How to Build Embodied Power as a Highly Sensitive Person

Sensitives tend to chase safety — looking for more boundaries to protect their known zone, preferences and quiet time.

But if you aren’t experiencing the thriving you desire, then that zone is too small.

You need the power to have and hold a bigger zone of More — in a way that doesn’t cost you who you are but enhances it.

Your power is never going to arrive in the mail with a bow and an apology from the government, your parents or your ex. It’s never going to happen. And frankly, they don’t have it to give to you anyways.

YOU have to build power inside of yourself.

Rather than another grueling exam to pass or mountain to climb,

Turning on this power feels radically juicy, freeing, a little naughty even.

Can I really do this? Can I really charge this? Can I really ask for this?

YES.

This is the foundational embodiment practice underneath all your other embodiment practices.

When you have embodied (not theoretical) power pumping through your veins (yes, those veins)… the room responds to you differently.

People trust you, feel safe with you. Your partner leans in (and you want them to).

You’re able to hold more with less effort. Spontaneity returns.

Your body releases the stories and stress that keep you from thriving right now and suddenly, you’re having sex at 3p in the afternoon and find out later you also made a sale.

That’s nervous system healing happening in real time, right in your body, exactly when it’s needed.

You’re less crushed by the world. And you don’t feel bad about it.

You’re making more impact and also having a better time.

This kind of power can’t be faked or performed. You don’t pray for it, pine for it and wait for it to arrive in the mail hand delivered.

You build it into your body with your eyes open, knees apart.

With it, your ability to meet the world, thrive in the world, ENJOY the world and belong in the world grows exponentially.

Your Sensitivity Becomes a Superpower, Not a Liability

Do you lose your sensitivity? Nope.

On the contrary, your sensitivity becomes a superpower instead of a liability that keeps you hiding in your room, crossing your fingers and wondering what you could have said better.

With this erotic power in your body, you can actually hold more sensitivity and it doesn’t feel overwhelming.

It feels good. It feels sharp. It feels intoxicating.

This pleasurable power is what’s waiting for you — not in spite of of your sensitivity, but with your sensitivity.

Inside my MA membership, I teach you how to embody this erotic power in the unique way that the female system holds it.

This is devotional (you’ve got that nailed) AND it is erotic.

Meaning it is IN YOUR BODY as a lived, felt reality that changes your every day experience — from how you interact with your kid’s teacher to how you seduce your spouse to how you hold space for others to how you make cash money.

This is a cosmos-hits-the-ground power that’s unique to how women are, how our bodies work and how our energy runs. As one MA member shared so eloquently, “Power now feels safe instead of scary, because it’s rooted in my body and the cosmos.”

It’s the opposite of how most advice works.

So much of what we’re taught about power isn’t embodied.

So much of what we’re taught about pleasure is about male bodies. I freaking love boys, but let’s be real… we different.

This interstellar, erotic female power doesn’t work against your nature, your desire or your body. It works because of them.

Your power is the key to the safety you’ve been chasing.

And you, not someone else, somewhere else, are the key to unlock it.

What Changes When Your Power Unlocks as a Highly Sensitive Person

What happens when this power unlocks within you?

You don’t feel less you on the other side. You feel more you.

Your gifts feel like actual gifts rather than high maintenance invisible friends.

Do you still get to be mysterious, alluring, disappear sometimes? Definitely.

You don’t flinch when your partner touches you. You soften and lean in without any scripts running through your head.

You can hold more structure with less stress. So business grows.

And when it does get stressful, you can recover and find pleasure anyway.

Asking for money doesn’t feel like a big deal (or like your worth is on the line).

You stop hemming and hawing over every fucking word or waiting for the perfect time. You send it. You go. You do it. You enjoy it.

When it’s not for you, you just say “No.” End of discussion.

It matters less what “the world” is doing because you’re too busy getting off on what YOU’re doing.

People come to watch that burn. Oh yeah… you feel seen and it feels good.

All the people who benefit from your work are so grateful and you don’t feel guilty for prioritizing your own path.

If you’re ready for your sensitivity to stop being the reason you can’t pop off and ready for it to be the reason you can…

MA is for you.

Be more of who you are — having a better time with more impact and more intimacy.

In Q2 we’re merging pussy power with cash money and ecstatic service.

Because your vocation is less about your enslaving sacrifice to your ideals and more about your innately sexy, sinuous codes for leadership and power.

This is what’s waiting for the highly sensitive person who’s done chasing safety and ready to build power instead.

Burn, baby, burn.

If Something in You Just Woke Up

I want to invite you to explore this work deeper with me. My free EROS class is 90 minutes for exactly this: 

• What erotic power actually is
• Why it’s the piece that’s been missing under everything that hasn’t quite clicked yet
• What it feels like to build it in your own body instead of just reading about someone else’s

 

You don’t need to know where it’s going. You don’t even need to feel ready. You just have to say yes.

Start EROS Class here (it’s completely free!)